Honor Your Desire to be Claimed!

If you have a desire to have a meaningful, purposeful relationship, a relationship that really glorifies God, a relationship that is fulfilling and exciting and passionate and purposeful where you feel connection… if that is your desire, I want you to know that there's no honor lost. There is no vanity in that. Having a desire for that is not shallow. I want you to know this because your life is on the line, and it's time for you to get urgent about your love life. It's time for you to get urgent about what you are creating next because the masses would have you believe that being productive is what it's all about. For the feminine woman, it's all about connection. That is a core need. Under food, shelter, water, connection. Connection is important. I think about the simple things that you're really craving right now. I think about playing up this pregnancy, where I can call my husband and be like, "Baaaaaaby! Come here, baby!" He's like, "What is it?! What is it?!" I'm like, "Can you bring me some water? Oh and can you get that blanket right there on the floor please?" He's like, "You playing the role, Monique," and I'm like, "Yeah, well, you know, I am. I'm gonna take advantage of it right now." Those are the simple things I know you desire… to have someone to tell you that you're lovely and they like your hair, and congratulations on the promotion, or just to share what work was like or to come home and not have to talk about work, but just to be held and to Netflix and chill.When I ask potential clients, “On a scale of one to 10, how urgent is this for you in order to be able to change what's happening in your life right now to bring you closer to the results that you want?” I hear a lot of sevens, a lot of fives, a lot sixes, and I'm asking, "Well, why not a 10?" What I hear is that, "Well, I don't wanna seem too desperate," or, "I'm human. I have this fear of being rejected." Listen, I get it. I hear you. But, you have to get beasty about what it is that you want. You have to honor your desire to be claimed because if you don't, nothing is going change for you. I can remember the feeling of rejection. In 2006, I entered the Miss Michigan USA pageant, and I didn't really have the money. All these girls had grown up in pageantry, and sure, I had entered a few pageants here and there, but not to this level that could take me to Miss USA. I had this big vision of what that could be like, and it took a lot of money that I really didn't have. thought, "Well, maybe I can get some sponsorships." I just had this idea, "Maybe somebody will want to support me. I don't know." I saw other girls had been doing it, but I didn't know the back end of what that would look like. I just Googled some stuff, and I was like, "Okay, well maybe I can see what it's like." Anyway, I remember calling this car dealership, and there was a woman, who was maybe just a few years older than me. And I remember thinking, “This girl ain't gonna give me no money. She just ..." See, I had this idea that black women don't really support each other and that she might be hating, but I called, and she was interested. I just called even though I had this fear of rejection. I was scared to call people to say, "Hey, this is what I'm doing. Would you like to be a part of it? Would you like to support this? This is what you get. This is the benefit that you get." Anyhow, I remember calling, and she seemed interested, and I went in to meet them, and that girl, from the dealership, gave me $250, which was Emerald level sponsorship. I was so blown away, because in my mind, I had all of these stories about who she was and what she wasn't going to do. Wow. Talk about squashing all my disbelief. I had gone from feeling stuck and not knowing what to do, to fear of rejection, to actually just stepping into it. This is what I'm talking about, leaning into the discomfort. Lean into it because you don't know what's on the other side of that. Because the desire was there, I knew that somebody had to give. I knew it was really a number’s game, and somebody had to cave in and support, just by sheer numbers because I know that these businesses have money for marketing purposes, but I thought maybe they wouldn't understand how supporting a girl who wants to do a pageant would help their business. I collected that experience as evidence that people do want to support. And, just by making the call boosted my confidence and boosted my belief. You see, there's this thing, I think it's called belief bias or confirmation bias, where you collect the evidence for what you want. Scripture says, “You will be proved right in what you say.” What would it take for you to begin to collect the evidence that supports the belief of the good in your life? Sure, there's going to be good and bad. That's the law of polarity. Forces come in pairs, but how can you separate that and really adhere to the good for what it is that you want because the truth is, is that there's a war going on, and your fear ... is evidence ... that there's two worlds going on. I was listening to a Bishop TD Jakes sermon and he said, “no robber robs an empty house.” Here why I’m sharing this with you. The fact that you have a fear is evidence that there is something greater for you on the other side because no robber robs an empty house. In the Scripture when Peter walked on water, he was like, "Hey, is that you, Lord?" I'm summarizing. He was like, "Hey, is that you, Lord?" He was like, "Well, if it's you, call me out," and so he began. He stepped out of the boat, into the water, and he was walking, and then guess what happened? He looked at the environment around him, and the waves were starting to blow more swiftly, harder, briskly, more abrupt. The winds were harsh. Then Peter lost it. Jesus was like, "Why did you doubt?" Oh my gosh. (Insert tears) Let God's Word be true and every man a liar. The Word is powerful and mighty and sharper than any two-edged sword. What you want is for you, and just like my friend Nicole said, this isn't like woo-woo. This is more like wifi. Let God's Word be true because here's what I know… You believe in God, but you don't believe God. Because if you did, you would let his Word be true, meaning that you get to be in belief. You get to be in choice. It's not like God's Word is true for everyone. Let God's Word be true in your won life and every man a liar because it is written, and anything that is written is more established. The Word of God must come to pass because God is faithful. Even though people may be unfaithful, God is faithful. Your past experiences would have you to believe that what you want isn't for you, and then you become under attack. What you want is real and is not a shallow desire. There are five skills that every woman needs in order to become an irresistible magnet for her desires. There's nothing wrong with you. It's just the way that you think. The prerequisite of those skills that I teach in the Feminine Allure Academy ... requires you to strengthen your mindset. Release unwanted thoughts and master self-talk so that you can move forward and bring you closer not only to be a powerful woman and feel really confident in your belief to attract good men, to feel like you can sustain a relationship, but man, to bring about the harvest in your life. One skill is that you have to show active faith. You have to show active faith! That's a skill. I'm just sharing you one of the five. This is your assignment: Show active faith by preparing for the thing that you've asked for. I believe it was Daniel who prayed to God, and there was 21 days delay because there was a spiritual warfare going on. It didn't come to pass until the 21st day, unless I'm mistaken. But don’t take my word for it. Read the Scripture and see what it says. You can Google it on Bible Gateway. The prayers were heard, but because of what was happening in the atmosphere, it did not come to pass until 21 days, at least 21 days. I'm saying this to say that your words have power. Allow your words to be your wand, full of magic and power, because that's where it starts. Start to use winning words because you can have this girl. They have power. It creates a vibration. I hope this information served you. Your words. Use your word as your wand. Stand and honor your desire to be claimed. It's not a shallow desire