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Men Can't Connect Because You Haven't Been Honest

Remember that men take their cues from what you say and what you do. I remember reading a book or an article something where it said “men have been conditioned to obey women beginning with his mom.” I'm in total agreement with that.Men typically respond to us women so that's why it's so important for you to send out the right signals, to operate in your Feminine Allure™ so that you can affect a man's thinking. Your influence on him will affect his thinking and will affect his actions. And how you're showing up, it will affect the culture of that relationship.Today's message is really for the woman who feels like you have a lot of banter, a lot of conversation going back and forth, and maybe there's a man in your life but it really doesn't go to that next level.Recently, I had a conversation with one of my private clients, a Polish Your Potential client, which is my 12-month private mentorship and coaching program. It helps you to build your best self so that you can begin to influence men and attract the right one for you.One of the things that she shared with me is that she expressed her desire, without the hinting and without the hoping. She expressed, "Hey, I want to be with you. I love spending time with you." And just really expressing how she felt from her heart. His response to her was, "You know, I've been waiting to hear you say that."It was either that or, "I'm so happy that you said that."Today, I want to talk about how your ability to create trust progresses the relationship or slows it down.Here's a quick example of how you could begin to create the trust in order to progress a relationship.This is something simple that you can do. I'm leaving you with good money tips today.Listen, when you're on the phone with someone and it's time to get off, do you say, "Well okay, I'll let you go now.’Or, “well I'm going to get ready to let you go, I know you have a lot going on in your plate."Or, do you take personal responsibility for you… for your thoughts?I can remember a time while I was on the phone and the other person said, "Well okay, I'll let you go because I know you’re busy."That left me thinking, "Don't do me no favors. If you want to get off the phone, say you want to get off the phone. But, don't put it on me."I find a lot of us women will put the onus, the responsibility, on someone else. I’ve been guilty of it too where I’ve made the man responsible rather than taking personal responsibility for how I’m showing up for my desires.When you practice personal leadership, you build trust and build attraction.That's where the commitment can happen because he trusts you. He trusts you with his heart.Men have a lot of issues too. Especially if he's divorced or he doesn't even have to be divorced. A lot of men don't even think about marriage right now because of how we're showing up.When that happened to me, I was like, "Don't do me no favors." I'm going to make sure I don't do that any more. And so what I began to do was just to speak my own truth.Here’s an example, “I'm really tired right now. I would love to continue speaking with you but I want to go to bed.” Or, something like that…whatever is your truth in that moment.I'm just saying this to say, don't put the onus on the other person. Begin to take personal responsibility for what it is what you want. Get comfortable with your desires and expressing that without the hinting, without the hoping, without putting responsibility on the next person. Because when you do this it's going to create trust.Maybe right now in a stagnant relationship because you haven't been able to create that trust. If you have not been practicing this, I want you to go ahead and begin practicing that.It’s a small, but impactful place to start.To your enhancement,Monique