What's your preference... fun or reliable?
I’ve been thinking, which word resonates with you the most… fun or reliable?Are fun and reliable mutually exclusive? Either way, what goes into your decision-making? I mean, what’s your selfish reason for choosing? I know there’s a tendency in all of us to make a decision based on fear.If you’re past a certain age, you might say reliable because you feel you should. But secretly, you fear being bBut, then again, maybe not.We often allow our fears to keep us blocked. Our fears that…
- He’ll be boring,
- We’ll become a bore
- He’ll cheat because we lost “it”, or
- We’ll cheat because someone else excites us are all natural emotions.
Because of that women often shift into entertaining mode, and the hassle of constantly trying to entertain likely stresses you out.Trying hard not to become boring means you’re not enjoying the journey. Plus, if the other person in the relationship doesn’t put forth the same effort to create excitement, you’ll feel under-appreciated. The fear of boring AND the desire for constant excitement can cause unnecessary stress, especially if you aren’t aware of those “excitement triggers”. Plus, it’s the “excitement triggers” that can blur your ability to vet men. Take this for example, when someone you’re attracted to says he’ll call but doesn’t, it’s frustrating and disappointing. It keeps you on edge.On the other hand, it’s exciting when that same man does actually call because it’s unpredictable. The volatility creates unpredictability which can be confused for “fun” because our emotions are on a roller coaster. See what I mean? Excitement triggers.If you believe you have to settle for a man who is boring, you’ll cheat yourself out of the wonderful experiences of a man who will love you and all your quirks.Just the same, if you believe you have to be a certain way in order to catch a man, then you’ll cheat him out of the opportunity of really getting to know you and accepting you Adventurous and reliable are not mutually exclusive. You can have both. You can be both.What’s important to you right now? Where do you fall on the spectrum? Let me knowTo your enhancement,Monique