If a man tells you that he's ready to settle down, but doesn't settle down with you, don't think that he's lying and then give up on men just because you can't find a quality man who's "honest."With that mindset, you'll set him up for the next woman.Show yourself to be quality woman, a woman worth having. Then, you can have your pick!A man can tell you he wants to settle down and get married, but the key is that you have to discern if he wants a relationship with YOU.Here are 3 signs to Know If a Man is Ready for a Relationship with YOU.Just like we women are able to send out signals, men also leave clues. But, it's up to you to discern and to identify what you really want. Because if you don't know what you want, it's easier for you to fall for anything.The first sign is consistency. A relationship-ready man, a man who is ready for a relationship with you, I should say, because he could be relationship-ready, but he may not choose you, and that's just the real of it.A man who is relationship-ready and he has chosen you, and then you get to choose him back, he's going to be consistent. He's going to call you regularly, he's going to show himself. AND, he is also going to be consistent in his own life.The primary thing, especially in the early stages this is: “Is he calling you regularly?” even if it's once a week, given his work schedule. I couldn't go for once a week. I remember when my husband and I were just seeing each other, I hinted something like, "You know you only call me every three days." He was like, "Somebody else told me that." Then, he started calling me more regular, even though I was saying that in jest. I was used to speaking to the men in my life every day and that was a personal requirement... to just tap in. That's number one... how consistent is he in interacting with you, making plans, going out?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5SQxekAWHQ&t=21sThe second piece of evidence of a relationship-ready man is his language. His language will indicate that he's ready for a relationship and if he is ready for a relationship with you. If he is, he’ll start to use more inclusive pronouns.Instead of "me" and "my", he'll say things like "our", "when WE do this", "when WE do that" and it's very inclusive. With my husband, that's what he did. When I first met him, he was like, "All this is for you, boo. You can get to decorating, and you can do this." He was really setting up the vision that I could really get up under, and he would use pronouns like "when WE get married."It's kind of funny too, because when we first met, he said, "I'm going to marry you," and I remember him telling my mom when he met her for the first time, "I'm going to marry your daughter." My mom was like, "Yeah, okay. That's nice. We'll see." Let my husband tell it, and he’ll let you that he prophesied into my life. Recently he said to me, "I told you I was going to marry you, didn't I?"All of this is to say that when a man knows what he wants, he's going to go for it. Your part is to be on the lookout and listen to his language. The disadvantage of that, or the other side is that before a man can even begin to use that kind of inclusive language, he has to be:

• #1 secure within himself
• #2 Secure within the relationship

So, if he doesn't feel safe, or he feels that he doesn't have what it takes to really progress the relationship, this is where you get to come in with your Feminine Allure™ to be able to move things forward. These are skills that I teach women within the Feminine Allure Academy, which is a 12-month group coaching program, that starts April 5, 2018. If you want more information it is by invite only, because it's not for every woman. The problems that I solve may not be your challenge. So, if this is something that appeals to you, I want you to email me at Monique@feminineallureacademy.com. In the subject line, put "Let's Talk," and we can take it from there.The third thing is his leisure time. How does he spend his leisure time? What are his social activities like?I asked my husband "How can a woman know that a man is relationship-ready?"This is what he said, "It's pace and his willingness to slow down." So, if he's still talking about the club, the club, the club, the strip club, going out with his buddies ... well, going out with his buddies is totally fine, but just be ... you've got to pay attention. You've got to listen to the clues. You gotta watch, look back, observe and not be so anxious all the time.Ask yourself and reflect.

• What is he doing in his social life?
• How does he spend his leisure time? (That can be an indication not only if he's ready to settle down, or ready to slow down ,but also you can assess whether or not you like how he's spending his time? Can you manage your emotions around that piece?)
• Is that the life that you could live with him?

This is just really to open you up, because I know sometimes women can go into "Does he like me? He's not calling me back," rather than stepping into the opportunity to really assess compatibility. That's what it's about, really assessing and evaluating your compatibilities.I hope that these three things served you. Number one, consistency; Number two, his language; Number three, his pace or his leisure. Okay? Go ahead and leave a comment below. What are other ways women can identify a relationship ready man?  I would love to read it.To Your Enhancement,Monique