Earlier in this email series, I mentioned that you’re probably focused on the here and now. Depending on the context, it’s generally appropriate to be focused on the present. However, in this case, the intense focus on the present can cause more harm than good. It’s because when you’re focused on the present with man attraction tactics, there’s a tendency to become robotic, versus fluid and feminine. There’s a tendency to just focus on the steps of where to meet men and how to rope’em in. I know you want more than that.  What’s essential for you on the journey to owning your influence is to identify your bigger commitment, then begin with the end in mind.  That is, envision what it is that you want. What’s your desire? Declare that first.  After that, the next step is transformation. Who is the woman you must become to have it?  Here’s a personal example.  Not too long ago, I set a goal for myself of waking up at 5:00am (really it’s been more like 5:35am, but hey girl, it’s a start… hehe). I set the goal so that I can do some restorative activities and get some things done like prayer, reading, making a healthy breakfast and ensuring my husband has a healthy lunch, and even light cleaning before sitting down at my desk by 8:00am. I set this goal because my desire for my life, right now, is to be a woman of order, and order is heaven’s first law. What I mean is that I don’t like “winging it”. I like to feel prepared, calm, and equipped. I desire more structure and mastery because it will help me blossom into the best version of myself and even prepare me for motherhood.  I shared this desire and vision with my husband. I also shared with him that I’d be sleeping earlier so that I can wake up earlier. Here’s the thing though.  My man and I have different sleep patterns. I’m an early bird and he’s not. So, after about three days of this new practice, I noticed on the third or fourth night he was in bed by 9:00pm and I was like, “What are you doing? You don’t go to bed at this time.”  He was like, “You did this to me. It’s all your fault.” I chuckled and my heart smiled. Remember, in your efforts to become your best self, you affect the men around you.  Let me recap on what you can do to own your influence. Know that it will enable you to affect a man’s thinking and his actions.

• First, make a decision and declare your personal vision. Currently, my vision is to become a woman of order. 

• Next, position yourself by beginning with the end in mind and identify who you need to become to receive your vision. Specifically, I established some practices that would helped me be proactive, instead of reactive, so that I can feel prepared, calm, and equipped. 

• Invite men to journey with you by sharing your vision so as to give him peak into your world.Make sure your intent is pure so that it’s done as a way to create connection versus seeming self-righteous. It’s your state of being that will influence results so remove any attachment or expectation to whether or not he’ll join you.​​​​​​​

• Keep your life, even though he’s in it. Do that thing that you said you would do. Make it a daily practice to focus on your happiness and what brings you peace of mind. 

Let me ask you, what lights you up right now?Is it the revelation that you reign in a position of influence and you can use your influence to turn a man’s heart upside down and attract the very best from life?If so, I want to invite you to tomorrow’s webinar just go here to register. On it, I’ll share the exact steps I took and continue to practice to live in my allure and influence, and how you use your feminine influence to attract the right man and create a purposeful relationship.>>Save Your Spot Now<< To your enhancement,Monique P.S. Just scrolled down? I’m doing a live training. It’s called, Discover Your Feminine Influence to Fascinate and Attract The Right Men. Register here to save your spot.