your glow up is necessary!

While I enjoyed the holiday season, it was also an emotional time just because of the memories and possibilities of what could have been... that my husband might've been left to raise our daughters by himself.

Naturally, I thought about the life skills that I've impressed upon them and the rest that I had to yet teach them.

During my hospital stay, I was confronted with what I'd known to be true, that I wasn't living and playing full out. I'd been operating in mediocrity. During that time I couldn't text or even hold the phone because my muscles had atrophied, I just had time to think.

And, I was grateful for the freedom to do so. There's one consistent theme that surfaced and it was for me to show up as the baddest, but in the best way of course.

When I shared this with my therapist, she asked "what does that mean to you"?

It meant living an epic life, even a small but epic life. It meant giving my best to my everyday, and when I'm sad or angry to give attention to those feelings instead of doing some empty pursuit so that I don't feel my feelings. It means buying new lingerie even at a larger size because it makes me feel good and attentive to my needs, or making a regular hair appointment with my hairstylist.

Before, I hadn't given myself permission, which is one requirement for your glow up. I shared the other requirement in this week's episode of What Your Mother Should've Taught You.

These simple acts feed my confidence, therefore allowing me to be more kind, compassionate, and comfortable not only with myself, but also with those around me.

Let me ask you, are you comfortable with yourself around men? Are you comfortable with yourself in general?

That's why I'm so excited about this round of my relationship readiness program because I can honestly say... girl, I've been there... being uncomfortable and everything that comes with that. There's so much more on the other side when you give yourself permission to step up and step in.