You know you’re a catch. You’re attractive and educated, and you’re ready for a relationship with a man. You know this is something you really want, but you can’t ever seem to make a connection. Your guard is up from a lifetime of disappointment and you just don’t feel attractive enough to get what you want. You find yourself in constant comparison mode, fascinated by other alluring and mesmerizing women who seem to sparkle in a way you don’t think you ever could. You agonize over whether you’re meant for a relationship because time goes by and you have experienced nothing real with a man. You’re drained, tired, and wanting to give up. 

What we do:

Nobody is born knowing how to be desired. Nobody is born mesmerizing and instantly attractive to high-quality men. It’s a skill you can build and learn. That’s the work we do. We help genuine, confident, ambitious women make intentional and subtle mental and physical shifts to align themselves with not only love but also the life they’ve always wanted.

Deep, transformative love, the kind you’re craving from a man, starts with you. You must feel ready, capable, and confident that you can attract the man you want long before he crosses your path. If you’re open to learning the secrets of relaxing into your femininity and using your natural allure to transform your interactions with men, then we would love to be part of the next chapter in your story.

My caribbean mother raised me to be the type of woman who goes after what they want with everything they have. This energy served me well when it came to being ambitious in my life. I went to law school and did well. I also applied this same mindset to my dating life, and the results weren’t as good. It turns out that hardcore “go get em” energy didn’t really work for finding the right man for me. I wasn’t alone either. Many of my peers were gorgeous and talented women who could figure everything out but love. 

I really looked into this more when I turned 30. 30 is a big number for most women because it's that age when we should have everything figured out. 

People tell us if we haven’t found the one by then we wither up and die. That idea drove me to make some poor decisions with my love life. I was struggling so much that I lost my job which was a breaking point for me. How had my personal life gotten so bad that my work suffered? How was I letting this happen?

I also thought about the ambitious women in my program who seriously lacked skills with men — either not being able to get one or getting one or being in situationships and terrible relationships that wreaked havoc on their lives. It’s so easy to get caught up in situationships and turmoil all for the sake of trying to get and keep a man. And why? Aren’t we all so accomplished?

I knew there had to be another way, so I became a student of femininity and it completely changed my life. I realized ‌I was doing everything the wrong way. Sure, my passion and drive got me a lot,  but not what I really wanted -- a great relationship. 

Through these teachings I learned how to shift my energy. I bounced back with confidence and control over my life. When my husband entered my life I wasn’t ready, and we actually almost broke up a few times. It was only with the tools that I’ve learned that I could keep my power and understand what I needed so I could know how to advocate for myself and the relationship. 

So many black women try to force and push their way to their goals and end up looking successful but being miserable. I’m so passionate about Feminine Influence work because it’s THE WAY to get anything you want, including a man.  

Femininity is a buzzword these days, but it’s not just about putting on makeup and being soft. It’s a strategy you can apply to your whole life. It’s a way of showing up that’s about YOU and the world responding to you and not you trying to force your way through life.

As black women, we are so used to fighting — we are so used to forcing our way through. We want to be strong and fight because that is how society has taught us to be. We don’t have to do that anymore and in fact, it’s not even the most effective way to get what you want. If you stick around, I’ll show you the path to getting that man you want, along with anything else your heart desires.

xo,

Monique